The dangers of curiosity in mental health and family systems

The dangers of curiosity in mental health and family systems

from Daniel Mackler: “I became a psychotherapist and got really deeply involved in the mental health field. I started reading the scientific literature on psychology, psychiatry, the psychology of mental illness (so-called mental illness), diagnosis, medication use. . . However, I realized… A lot of it was not scientific at all, it was complete nonsense and full of holes… I realized that my curiosity was stronger than the people who wrote these papers… When I am curious, As I keep asking questions, especially as I read what other mental health professionals have told me, I keep asking myself questions that I am doing more and more in the mental health field when I work in a mental health facility, Especially while listening to big shot psychiatrists and psychologists, I realized: Well. What they say often doesn’t hold up. When I ask critical questions – I don’t mean nasty questions or argumentative ones Confrontational questions, but questions where I give my curiosity free rein and I try to figure out if there are blind spots in their argument and basically I’m practicing good science – and I see time and time again that they don’t like it. They’re subject to Threatened by it, they felt attacked by it. It’s like, I realized that they were motivated by a lack of curiosity; that they were responsible for their own lies.

. . . I made few friends with therapists in the mental health field because they didn’t like the way I asked questions. However, I realized that in my work as a therapist, my ability to ask questions, be genuinely curious, ask questions based on curiosity, and follow my questions is what many of my clients enjoy. They really appreciate it. The person is simulating reflection, simulating studying them and really trying to figure out where they came from and why they are the way they are, rather than saying, “Go on the medication, do this, the science supports it” or “You have a genetic problem, therefore you have Brain problem, so you need to take medication and accept this diagnosis” – I’m not saying that because I haven’t seen the evidence; it hasn’t been proven to me yet. Yet what I see time and time again is when people really look at themselves with curiosity, trying to figure out who they are, figure out their story, figure out what their relationship was with their parents, create their life. their own narrative, rather than accepting the narrative that was told to them multiple times along the way—I found that people really can change, and people can be empowered in a completely different way.

But that’s not to say that all of my clients like this – because I realize that some of the people I worked with when I was a therapist… . . They don’t like to be asked real questions, they want to be told what they should do, they want their pain to go away, they don’t want to look inside themselves – because I realize that when people really start to look inward, especially It was very painful in the early days. This reminds me of my parents again. I really think the reason they’re not curious at all is because it’s so painful. Because curiosity has consequences, so does asking questions: the true conclusions are sometimes not easy to accept. Sometimes the bullshit in science, the bullshit in mental health, the bullshit in biology—it’s easy to accept, it’s comfortable. It’s comfortable to come to the same conclusions that everyone has come to along the way, or to just tweak those conclusions a little to make it seem like you have a unique perspective on life. Following the rules is easy. Sometimes it’s easy to close your eyes and not think. . . I think that’s the way the world works: curiosity is dangerous. Galileo was dangerous. Copernicus was dangerous. These people are dangerous to the establishment. Most fundamentally, I think truly curious children are dangerous to the creation of family institutions—the lies of family institutions. “

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