This is kind of sad…
The guy who wrote this Reddit story reasonably sounds like a very nice person and you can tell he was pretty upset by what happened here…
But did it go too far?
Check out his story and be the judge.
“My [31M] and my longtime friend [30M] they bought a house together last June.
I have a large family, with eight cousins and around twenty nieces and nephews and I am the oldest of my generation.
I also have a fairly high paying job, as does my boyfriend.
My boyfriend has been out of touch with his family for over a decade and has been coming to my family parties since before we started dating.
He’s a generous guy.
Within my family I’m known to be a bit fancy with gifts and the kids are always excited about my gifts because they’re usually big things like LEGO sets and stuff like that.
Now for the story: So today (or yesterday I guess), my family had a pre-Christmas party since we won’t be able to get together any time this year after this week. Held at me and my friend’s new house, the first family event we’ve had here.
My friend really wanted in on the giveaway, so he went with gifts, spending an average of $100 per person. He was so excited to give everyone their gifts after we spent not only money but a lot of time getting everything together for everyone.
They were about to be shocked.
The festivities were a great success and my boyfriend and I got away for a while to have some quiet time together.
While we were resting on the stairs, we heard my cousin [17F] chatting with my niece [15F].
They were joking about some family members and mentioned my friend and how he was “too *** to function”.
It got worse…
We honestly didn’t mind too much, it’s a movie reference and they’re kids, but then another cousin [24M] came in and began to make more cruel jokes, at which the children laughed.
These “jokes” brought my boyfriend to tears and I refused to let it go.
When the gift negotiation began, I took the three aside and informed them that I was not happy with their comments and that it was not okay for them to say so.
I told them to apologize to my friend because it was unfair to him and they refused because it was just a joke that we shouldn’t hear.
He made a decision.
I told them I don’t care and they had to apologize.
They refused again and I told them that since they don’t respect him they don’t deserve the gifts we got them.
This made them backtrack and say they would apologize but I told them it was too late but they should apologize. Here I think I may have been too harsh.
My younger cousin told her mom, my aunt, that I refuse to give the other two their gifts and she was mad about it, she told my niece’s parents and her male cousin’s dad and partner about it and all of them made a huge fuss.
Me and my sister chased them off and when they tried to grab their presents before they left I stopped them and ran them out the door.
The whole thing fell apart after that and it all ended very abruptly.
The AITA who kicked them out and took their presents for jokes?’
And now let’s see what people had to say about it on Reddit.
This person said it is NTA at all.
Another person had a good idea.
This reader also said it is NTA.
One person nailed it.
And this Reddit user wouldn’t put up with that…
He really laid down the law!
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